We are designed to naturally
desire sex and relationships, but that doesn’t mean that the wisdom in this
area comes to us naturally. We still need to learn how to become better
partners and improve our relationships. In this relationship blog post, and the
following one, I’m collaborating with Relationship Enhancement Expert - Desiree
Snowden to share with you some fun facts about sex and relationships. This week’s
post is dedicated to men, though women could definitely benefit from it, and
next week’s post will be dedicated to women.
Desiree Snowden is Relationship
Enhancement Expert and Director at Pure Romance. She comes to you with 10
years of experience. She has been married for 24 years, in which 23
of those years her spouse was in the military, together they have two
children. Desiree has studied Human Sexuality extensively and how
relationships change over time. She is also a trainer and mentor to a
vast Pure Romance team and has a thriving Pure Romance business in Washington
state.You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.
Desiree will be speaking at the Making a Match seminar on Thursday, February 1st , 2018, at the Redmond regional library. The event is open to the public.
21 Facts Men Need to Know About Women’s Sexuality and Relationships
1.
Women are sexually stimulated when they feel
desired.
2.
It takes a woman on average between 15-20
minutes of foreplay before she can reach orgasm.
3.
Massage is a great form of foreplay as it allows
the body to relax.
4.
Using lubricant is not cheating; giving birth,
aging, illness, or even taking certain medications can cause women to not self
lubricate.
5.
Exhaustion tends to be the primary cause of low
libido.
6.
Women love variation in the bedroom. If you want proof, just check out her
closest.
7.
For a woman sex is a bonding process; it allows
her to feel connected with her partner.
8.
Women are less stressed if they have 3 orgasms a
week.
9.
Women who do not have sex on a regular basis
will actually start to want it less.
Consistent sex is the key to keeping a relationship physically healthy.
10. Bedroom
accessories are just additions to the actual play. They don’t replace you - they don’t kiss or hug. Some women have a hard time reaching
orgasm without clitoral stimulation and bedroom accessories can help them with
that.
11. Marriage
is not just a piece of paper and a ring. It’s a commitment and it changes the
dynamics of the relationship psychologically and physically.
12. Keep
your efforts going to make your partner feel loved and desired, just like you
did when you were dating. Once a
consistent routine develops (marriage or a long time relationship), life tends
to happen. Keeping engaged with
your partner keeps the relationship stronger.
13. Bodies
change and so do desires; don’t be afraid to talk about that. The longer you
are together with your partner, the more communication should be able to flow,
so always keep your lines of communication open.
14. Don’t
try to guess what she wants - ask her. You can say – I know what you like, but
I would like to know what you really want.
15. It’s
OK to schedule sex. Tell her -
don’t plan anything on the 16th – and see how excited she will get.
16. Be
curious to learn what she wishes to try in sex.
17. The
biggest problems in a marriage is not money and sex, it is unmet expectations. Make it your mission to find out her
expectations of the relationship.
18. Shame
and embarrassment do not bring good energy to the bedroom whereas pride and
confidence do. Make it a personal
mission to be kind and supportive of your partner so she will feel good about
her body and sexuality.
19. Praise
her on a daily basis. Compliments will
make her sizzle.
20. When
a woman feels desired it impacts so many things such as body image,
relationship dynamics, and health.
21. If
you feel you have exhausted your techniques or just want to try something new,
read a good book about sex. The
responsibility is yours as well as your partner’s.
