Finding love, the right one for you, is not an easy task. It requires maturity, awareness, knowledge, time, and resources. It’s an investment that can improve your health, increase your level of happiness, and even prolong your life. To help grow your chances of finding long lasting love I’ve asked Seattle’s leading matchmaker Monique Le of Seattle Love Broker to explain Seattle’s unique dating culture and share some of her insights on what it takes to make a good match.
Monique Le is
the founder of Seattle Love Broker, a full-service relationship advisory and matchmaking
firm. After graduating from the University of Washington Business School, she
worked for over a decade as a wealth manager for a top-tier investment company. In 2014, after taking some time off to
raise her two children, she decided to follow her passion and become a
professional matchmaker and relationship advisor. The Seattle Love Broker is
now one of Seattle’s top matchmaking services. You can follow Monique on her facbebook page
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Many singles in Seattle claim that it’s hard to find a
romantic partner in our area. Do you agree with this claim?
It
is hard to find a romantic partner anywhere in America, but particularly
Seattle. In 2018, Seattle was voted the worst place to find love. Due to our
booming high-tech industry Seattle attracts highly educated professionals in
this field who tend to lack social skills that allow them to connect with
others and stay connected. Also, since there are more men in the technological
professions we have in Seattle more single men than single women.
When a person asks for your help in matchmaking what
personal qualities are you looking for to define if they are ready for a
committed relationship?
Having
good role models - people who grew up observing healthy
relationships tend to make better partners in committed relationship.
Adaptability -
a person who is able and willing to quickly learn and embrace new ways of
thinking to accommodate another person.
Maturity – life lessons and
experiences that form realistic expectations of a partner and a relationship.
Being in good mental and
physical health – it goes without saying that someone with good physical well-being and of
sound mind and intellect makes a better partner.
In your opinion what are the most important parameters that make two
people a potential good match?
Shared
core values – aside from religious, political, and philosophical compatibility,
I also look for values such as dependability, loyalty, commitment,
open-mindedness, honesty, etc. which are important for the foundation of a
sound partnership.
Intellectual
compatibility – goes beyond level of education to examine if a couple
shares similar interests in learning and growth.
Shared
inspiration – both partners had experienced first-hand positive
relationships and good role models/mentors. Being able to observe others negotiate differences in a
relationship is invaluable.
Both partners need to share a similar language of relationship.
Good
support system- people who care about the couple and step in to help, like
parents, siblings, friends, or religious leaders.
In an era of many online dating sites and dating apps, why
would people consider using a matchmaker?
Not everyone is content
with wading through the sea of singles and spending all their spare time
looking at profiles. A competent
matchmaker can vet through the numerous people to objectively curate quality
matches for a candidate. She (the
majority of matchmakers are women) can help find a life partner more
effectively. The truth is that
finding the right match isn’t easy, not even for professional matchmakers.
Working with an experienced talented matchmaker can increase one’s odds to find
the right person for them.