I have heard many women say that
the man they were dating lost interest soon after they had sex. For some women
having sex with a man means stepping their relationship up, but unfortunately
it doesn’t necessarily mean the same for their partner. Women tend to fall in love with the man
they are having sex with, while men tend to loose interest in the woman they
had sex with at early stages of a relationship. There is a biological
explanation for why men and women react differently to sex.
During sex the female body
releases Oxytocin, which is the bonding hormone. The same process happens when
a woman is having a baby; it’s nature’s way to ensure caring for this hopeless
demanding creature. The male body doesn’t work the same way; when sex is only
an expression of physical desire, there is a high level of testosterone in the
body that blocks Oxytocin. Research has found that only after a man is willing
to commit, then his testosterone level drops, allowing the body to release
Oxytocin.
As human behavior is more complex
than one type of explanation, be it biological or psychological, communication
is key here. I think people should be open and honest with themselves and their
partner about their desires and expectation from their relationship.
Had you had sex in early stages
of your relationship? What was your experience? Did it lead to bonding or the
dissolving of the relationship? You can write a comment anonymously, but please
mention your gender, age, and the type of relationship that you were in
(heterosexual/homosexual).
